The Paradox Of Conciliation - Perpetuating Gender Asymmetries In Indian Matrimonial Dispute Resolution

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THE PARADOX OF CONCILIATION: PERPETUATING

GENDER ASYMMETRIES IN INDIAN MATRIMONIAL

DISPUTE RESOLUTION

Ivy Dey, LLB. (Hons.), National Law School of India University, Bengaluru

ABSTRACT

This article critically examines the notion of conciliation within the legal frameworks of the Hindu Marriage Act, 1955 and the Family Courts Act,

1984 and purports to explore the contours of gender equality within the

context of marital reconciliation. Employing a multi-method approach that combines doctrinal legal analysis with qualitative examination of ethnographic data from family court proceedings, the study traces the historical evolution of these Acts and elucidates how the overarching emphasis on preserving marital sanctity inadvertently perpetuates patriarchal norms and undermines gender equality principles. The study analyzes the power dynamics inherent in conciliation processes, where women are often coerced into compromising autonomy, safety, and well-being to uphold the marital institution, and argues that the idealization of marriage, coupled with the non-recognition of women's domestic contributions, reinforces economic subordination. Moreover, prioritizing children's welfare frequently overshadows women's individual rights and needs.

Deeply entrenched judicial biases exacerbate systemic oppression, as judges reinforce gender stereotypes during conciliation proceedings, highlighting the tension between preserving societal norms and upholding gender equality. Through a critical examination of statutory language, legislative history, judicial reinforcement of gender hierarchies, and empirical data, this article calls for re-evaluating underlying assumptions governing the implementation of conciliation, ensuring women's interests are not compromised in the pursuit of marital stability.

Introduction Conciliation, as defined within the legal framework of the Hindu Marriage Act, 1955 (HMA) and the Family Courts Act, 1984 (FCA), embodies a pivotal concept in the resolution of matrimonial disputes in India. Both these Acts incorporate provisions emphasizing the significance of reconciliation between parties, thereby highlighting the preservation of the marital institution as a paramount concern while also promoting the expeditious resolution of family disputes through conciliation processes. 1 This emphasis on reconciliation points to a broader societal commitment to preserving marriages and safeguarding children's welfare, yet raises critical questions about the implications of prioritizing marital stability over individual rights and well-being, particularly concerning gender dynamics and power imbalances within marital relationships2.

United Nations Entity for Gender Equality and the Empowerment of Women defines gender equality as the equal rights, duties, and opportunities afforded to both men and women, and emphasizes that gender equality requires accounting for the interests, needs, and priorities of both sexes, while acknowledging the diversity within various groups of men and women. 3 While the conciliatory measures outlined in the Acts under consideration may initially appear gender neutral in the language employed, a closer inspection of the implementation of the provisions exposes a power imbalance that adversely affects women. The judicial conciliation processes often overlook the underlying power dynamics between parties, presuming equal rights and opportunities within the marital unit.

Consequently, the interests and needs of women are frequently disregarded, undermining the true essence of gender equality. Notion of Conciliation within the HMA and the FCA The enactment of the Hindu Marriage Act in 1955 marked a departure from the traditional view of marriage as an interminable sacrament4, allowing for dissolution of Hindu marriages under specified circumstances. However, the stress on conciliatory measures is evident from Section 23(2) of the HMA which stipulates- “Before proceeding to grant any relief under this Act, it 1 Hindu Marriage Act, No. 25 of 1955, § 23(2) (Ind. ); Family Courts Act, No. 66 of 1984, § 9(1) (Ind. )

2 D. Nagasaila, Family Courts: A Critique, 27 Econ. & Pol. Wkly. 1736 (1992).

3 Office of the Special Adviser on Gender Issues and the Advancement of Women, United Nations, Important Concepts Underlying Gender Mainstreaming (rev. Aug. 2001), https://www.un.org/womenwatch/osagi/pdf/factsheet2.pdf. (last visited Oct. 1, 2024).

4 M. P. Jain, Matrimonial Law in India, 4 J. Indian L. Inst. 76 (1962).

shall be the duty of the court in the first instance... to make every endeavour to bring about reconciliation between the parties”. 5 Read in conjunction with Section 9(1) of the Family Courts Act, 1984, which states- “In every suit or proceeding, endeavour shall be made by the Family Court in the first instance... to assist and persuade the parties in arriving at a settlement... ”6, it seems clear that there is a tremendous emphasis on the preservation of the institution of marriage, a view that has been reiterated by the Supreme Court in multiple instances. 7 However, to gain a deeper insight into the gender inequality perpetuated by the implementation of the reconciliatory provisions outlined in the HMA and the FCA, delving into the historical evolution of the Acts and outlining some of the reforms within them is crucial.

Historical Scrutiny Ø Hindu Marriage Act The Hindu community is marked by significant cultural diversity; nevertheless, a universal aspect of Hinduism is the sanctity attributed to marriage as a sacred institution. Marriage is perceived as a divine ordinance with its roots in ancient Hindu scriptures- a mystical merging of souls intended to be eternal, as evidenced by the ceremonial practices surrounding Hindu marriages. 8 Historically, Hindu marriage customs were primarily governed by Sastrik Law, with legal intervention in marriage practices only emerging during the British colonial period. 9 In the early 1940s, the British colonial government, while adhering to a policy of noninterference, initiated the codification of Hindu personal law.

Parliamentarians prioritized Hindu law reform for several reasons: Hindu dominance among the population in general and in the executive and legislature in particular, perceived readiness for reform compared to other groups, the perceived backwardness of Hindu law, and the need to consolidate diverse customs within Hinduism. 10 This initiative also sought to dismantle the dominance of the “upper

5 Hindu Marriage Act, No. 25 of 1955, § 23(2) (Ind.).

6 Family Courts Act, No. 66 of 1984, § 9(1) (Ind.)

7 Balwinder Kaur v. Hardeep Singh AIR 1998 SC 764; Jagraj Singh v. Birpal Kaur AIR 2007 SC 2083

8 Daljeet Singh, Desirability of Instant Divorce by the Judiciary: A Critique, 45 J. Indian L. Inst. 439 (2003). 9 Ritwick Singh, Hindu Marriage Act, 1955: A Critical Analysis, along with a Peek into Its History, 2 Indian J. Law & Legal Rsch 3 (2021). 10 Narendra Subramanian, Making Family and Nation: Hindu Marriage Law in Early Postcolonial India, 69 J. Asian Stud. 784 (2010).

castes”. 11 This was part of their effort to organize the Indian political system by documenting matters falling under the jurisdiction of respective religious communities, termed "personal laws”. Initially proposed in 1941, the Hindu Code Bill was eventually divided into four statutes, which were passed after significant compromise between May 1955 and December 1956, including the Hindu Marriage Act (No. 25 of 1955). 12 The traditional Hindu Law, rooted in ancient scriptures, deems marriage as the foremost among the sixteen samskaras and a sacrament, immutable and perpetual,13 thus disallowing divorce. This stringent doctrine prevailed in India for Hindus until the enactment of the HMA in 1955, which introduced significant reforms.

14 Originally intending to amend and codify the myriad Sastrik Laws of marriage among the Hindus15, the Act made provisions for the dissolution of Hindu marriages for the first time, departing from traditional norms. The HMA also introduced the principle of monogamy, criminalizing the prevalent norm of bigamy among Hindu men, punishable under Section 494 of the IPC. 16 However, it would be wrong to assume that the HMA was passed without opposition. The opponents demanded a vote specifically on its divorce clause in the Lok Sabha. Twenty out of

170 members voted against including divorce rights in the HMA.17 The Hindu nationalist

parties voted unanimously against it. Opposition to divorce, largely from the twice-born castes, reflected concerns about threats to patrilineages and the nuclear family's continuity, particularly regarding inheritance rights for married daughters and divorce rights.18 Parliamentarians opposing the changes were open to supporting certain women's rights, like inheritance for unmarried daughters, as long as they didn't directly threaten patrilineal authority. They also backed measures that strengthened the familial unit and marital autonomy, such as banning bigamy and acknowledging intercaste marriages.19 Social, political, and ideological shifts, including decreased lineage control over property, 11 J. Duncan M. Derrett, Statutory Amendments of the Personal Law of Hindus Since Indian Independence, 7 Am. J. Comp. L. 383 (1958).

12 Subramanian, supra note 10, at 782.

13 S.G. Bhat, Laws of Marriage from "Sastras" to Statutes - Inequality to Equality, 45 J. Indian L. Inst. 400 (2003).

14 Jain, supra note 4.

15 Singh, supra note 9, at 4.

16 Flavia Agnes, Hindu Men, Monogamy and Uniform Civil Code, 30(50) Econ. & Pol. Weekly 3238 (1995).

17 Subramanian, supra note 10, at 789.

18 Subramanian, supra note 10, at 786.

19 Subramanian, supra note 10, at 787.

reduced emphasis on Hindu traditions in family law discourse and the rise of civil society organizations, particularly women's groups, have facilitated the implementation of reforms over the past decades. Policymakers prioritized marital autonomy over the continuity of the nuclear family, leading to increased divorce rights. Parliament subsequently decreased and eventually eliminated the waiting period of three years between judicial separation and divorce in 1964 and 1976 through amendments to the HMA. 20 The 1976 amendment also made cruelty, desertion, and adultery valid grounds for divorce21 and introduced divorce by mutual consent, a form of no-fault divorce, outlined in Section 13B of the Act..

22 Notwithstanding the reforms within the Act, the initial stress on the preservation of the marital and familial unit finds resonance in the conciliatory provisions23 outlined in the Act Ø Family Courts Act The establishment of family courts in India came about as a response to the limitations of the traditional legal system in handling family disputes. 24 Advocated for by the feminist movement of the 1970s and 1980s25, the need for family courts arose from the recognition that adversarial proceedings worsened discord and hindered settlement or reconciliation. Traditional adversarial models prioritize rights and follow rigid rules, limiting contextual decision-making due to binding precedent.

26 Legal theorists acknowledged that special procedures were required in order to counter delays and corruption, focusing on assisting those in need, facilitating reconciliation, and offering support when necessary. 27 There was a pressing need to develop alternative means of dispute resolution in order to provide a sanctuary from the intimidating nature of traditional legal proceedings, particularly for marginalized groups like women, and alleviate the litigants' feelings of alienation, invasion of privacy, distress, and humiliation in formal courts. 28 This culminated in the passing of the Family Courts Act in 1984, providing a legal framework for courts handling divorce, maintenance, adoption, and custody cases.

20 Subramanian, supra note 10, at 793.

21 Hindu Marriage Act, No. 25 of 1955, § 13(1)(i), (ia), (ib), as amended by the Marriage Laws (Amendment) Act, No. 68 of 1976, India Code (1976). 22 Virendra Kumar, Varying Judicial Responses to Dissolution of Marriage by Mutual Consent under the Hindu Marriage Act, 1955: A Crisis of Constitutional Culture, 52(2) J. Indian L. Inst. 267 (2010).

23 Hindu Marriage Act, No. 25 of 1955, § 23(2), India Code (1955).

24 Nagasaila, supra note 2, at 1735.

25 Srimati Basu, Judges of Normality: Mediating Marriage in the Family Courts of Kolkata, India,

37(2) Signs 475 (2012).

26 Trina Grillo, The Mediation Alternative: Process Dangers for Women, 100(6) Yale L.J. 1557 (1991).

27 Paras Diwan, The Family Courts, 27(1) J. Indian L. Inst. 101 (1985).

28 Basu, supra note 25, at 474.

Importance Accorded to Reconciliation Proceedings in Matrimonial Suits under the

HMA

Despite the relaxation of fault thresholds in divorce proceedings, reconciliation remains a central focus in matrimonial suits, even in ex-parte scenarios. In H. S. Uma vs G. K. Sumanth Arya29, the Karnataka High Court opined that even when one party is absent, courts are obligated to attempt reconciliation, considering that there may be valid reasons for the party's non-appearance. The court maintained that on subsequent hearing dates, efforts can still be made to encourage reconciliation, since a rushed disposition of cases without exploring possibilities of reconciliation undermines the court's obligations under Section 9(1) of the FCA and Section 23(2) of the HMA. 30 The primacy given to conciliatory procedures is also evident from the Supreme Court’s stance in Balwinder Kaur vs Hardeep Singh31.

The appellant wife petitioned for divorce under Section 13(a) of the Hindu Marriage Act, citing cruelty and desertion. Obtaining an ex-parte order due to the husband's absence, she later appealed to the Punjab and Haryana High Court, alleging fraud in the divorce petition's initiation, which she claims she never intended. However, the High Court's dismissal of the appeal was met with further scrutiny by the Supreme Court. The Supreme Court highlighted Section 23 of the Hindu Marriage Act, emphasizing the court's dual duty: to ascertain the legitimacy of divorce grounds and to actively pursue reconciliation between spouses before granting a decree. The Apex Court contended that the failure of the lower court to address these statutory obligations raises concerns about judicial oversight.

While directing the appellant to file a separate suit for setting aside the divorce decree may seem procedurally logical, it may not fully address the complexities of the case or ensure equitable resolution. The fact that marriage is central to the fabric of Indian society is reflected in the language employed in Indian jurisprudence. This can be vividly encapsulated by J. V. R. Krishna Iyer’s statement in V. K. Gupta vs. Nirmala Gupta32: “It is fundamental that reconciliation of a ruptured marriage is the first essay of the judge, aided by counsel in this noble adventure. The sanctity of marriage is, in essence,

29 H.S. Uma vs G.K. Sumanth Arya II (1993) DMC 174

30 Id. at ¶ 8

31 Balwinder Kaur vs Hardeep Singh AIR 1998 SC 764

32 V.K. Gupta vs. Nirmala Gupta MANU/SC/0365/1979

the foundation of civilisation and, therefore, Court and counsel owe a duty to society to strain to the utmost to repair the snapped relations between the parties. ” The Gendered Pitfalls of Conciliatory Legal Frameworks The concept of conciliation is not novel within Indian law, having been established in acts like the Industrial Disputes Act, 1947. However, the Family Courts Act introduces a distinctive approach to conciliation. Unlike the Industrial Disputes Act, where conciliation and adjudication are separate processes, the Family Courts Act assigns judges the dual responsibility of conciliating and resolving disputes. Family disputes, being personal and emotional, pose distinct challenges in the conciliation process compared to collective bargaining over non-personal issues.

33 Notwithstanding the introduction of divorce and the subsequent lowering of fault threshold in divorce cases through the HMA and its amendments as mentioned above, the primacy given to the sanctity of marriage is evident from the language of conciliatory provisions of the HMA and the FCA. The very language of the latter, even beyond the scope of Section 9(1), paints a graphic picture of the centrality of conciliation in adjudication- Section 4(4)(a) mandates that efforts be made in appointing judges to prioritize individuals who are not only committed to preserving marriage and promoting children's welfare but also possess the requisite experience and expertise in facilitating dispute resolution through conciliation and counselling.

34 Conciliation is often understood by judges as prioritizing attempts at reconciliation before considering divorce, diverging from its interpretation as merely an alternative to adversarial processes for conflict resolution. 35 While the emphasis on reconciliation is not inherently flawed, there is an issue with how it is implemented. While family courts were intended to empower parties to represent their cases and customize relief to individual needs, this approach assumes equality between disputing parties, disregarding the inherent power imbalance, particularly between men and women. When unequally positioned individuals negotiate, the stronger party are often placed at an

33 Nagasaila, supra note 2, at 1735.

34 Family Courts Act, No. 66 of 1984, § 4(4)(a) (Ind.)

35 Srimati Basu, Playing off Courts: The Negotiation of Divorce and Violence in Plural Legal Settings in Kolkata, 52 J. Legal Pluralism & Unofficial L. 53 (2006).

advantage, typically the man, while women are frequently pressured into compromising against their will, risking their safety and interests in the process. 36 To understand the pressures exerted by the conciliatory framework on women, one must consider their marginalized position within the marital unit, where their contributions as homemakers are undervalued and their economic security compromised in divorce settlements. The idealisation of marriage as the sole avenue for sexual expression, emotional support, and material stability reinforces women's economic subordination. 37 The legal and societal failure to recognize women's roles often results in financial destitution post-divorce, compelling them to pursue divorce only after exhausting all avenues for reconciliation.

Divorce laws, structured to prioritize economic security, effectively discourage women from seeking divorce by offering minimal maintenance support. This regulatory focus seeks to uphold the institution of marriage and mitigate social issues such as vagrancy and prostitution, ultimately neglecting women's dignity and well-being. 38 The Family Courts Act’s emphasis on conciliation with the overarching goals of preserving marriage and safeguarding children's welfare, though seemingly well-intentioned, may inadvertently neglect the interests of women, who often experience oppression and violence within marital relationships. 39 In her ethnographical study of the Kolkata Court, Srimati Basu records how conciliation is often equated with reconciling marriages, with court-counsellors recounting stories of marital abuse and coercion resulting in what they perceive as successful reunions.

One such counsellor interviewed by her recounted a case where a client's husband was extremely paranoid, jealous, and violently abusive, even slashing his wife and causing severe blood loss. Despite this, the client initially lied to protect her husband's job and ensure financial support. The counsellor negotiated with the husband to seek psychiatric help and grant his wife some freedom, resulting in their reconciliation. This exemplifies a narrative among counselors, where the goal is often reconciliation, with success being achieving increased mobility or freedom for women within the existing marriage, rather than outright separation. Counselors depict their role as facilitating strategic survival within existing marriages, rather than adopting an absolute anti-violence stance. 40 Judges also view their role as promoting

36 Nagasaila, supra note 2, at 1735.

37 Flavia Agnes, Maintenance for Women: Rhetoric of Equality, 27(41) Econ. & Pol. Weekly 2233 (1992).

38 Id.

39 Nagasaila, supra note 2, at 1736.

40 Basu, supra note 25, at 481.

marital stability, emphasizing problem-solving and swift case resolution as essential aspects of their duties, often ignoring the threat to the safety and well-being of the women within the marital union. 41 In the context of family court proceedings, judges often end up reinforcing gender hierarchies and societal expectations while mediating marital disputes. A reconciliation proceeding at the Kolkata Court documented by Srimati Basu vividly illustrates this propensity. Underlying the judge’s seemingly supportive stance while addressing the husband's controlling behaviour and resistance to his wife's employment lies a reinforcement of traditional gender roles. For instance, when discussing the wife's job, the judge refrains from instructing her to quit, citing the husband's failure to fulfil his role as the primary breadwinner.

This subtle reinforcement of gender norms not only underscores the husband's perceived authority but also implies that the wife's employment is contingent upon his ability to provide for the family. Thus, while ostensibly advocating for women's empowerment, the judge simultaneously upholds patriarchal structures by emphasizing the husband's role as the head of the household and the primary determinant of the family's economic stability. 42 Judges frequently reinforce gender stereotypes rooted in patriarchal biases, influencing their treatment of litigants within the legal system. This phenomenon is evident in cases where women deviate from traditional gender norms, such as one involving a woman who left her husband to cohabit with another man, and another characterized by reports and court evidence depicting a woman's contentious and unpredictable behaviour.

43 In both instances, judges exhibited frustration towards these women, whose actions diverged from societal expectations of ideal feminine conduct. Additionally, prioritizing children's welfare within the confines of marriage frequently eclipses the individual needs and rights of women, potentially marginalizing their concerns and perpetuating their subordination within the legal process. This presumption suggests a bias towards upholding the institution of marriage, even at the expense of individual well-being and autonomy. 44 Justice Arijit Pasayat's remarks in Gaurav Nagpal vs Sumedha Nagpal45 illustrate 41 Srimati Basu, Playing off Courts: The Negotiation of Divorce and Violence in Plural Legal Settings in Kolkata, 52 J. Legal Pluralism & Unofficial L. 54 (2006).

42 Basu, supra note 25, at 483-84.

43 Basu, supra note 25, at 486.

44 Nagasaila, supra note 2, at 1736.

45 Gaurav Nagpal vs Sumedha Nagpal AIR 2009 SC 557

this judicial trend of prioritizing marital sanctity under the guise of protecting children's welfare. He stated that the integrity of marriage is increasingly compromised, negatively impacting society as a whole. By emphasizing that children, particularly daughters, often suffer due to parental disputes, Justice Pasayat suggested that the stability of the marital institution is vital for their well-being. His observation regarding the reluctance of prospective grooms’ families to consider girls from broken or divorced families underscores a judicial inclination to uphold traditional marital norms. This hesitation reflects an underlying presumption that the sanctity of marriage must be maintained, thereby using children's welfare as a justification to marginalize women's rights and autonomy within legal discourse.

Conclusion While the conciliatory provisions in the Hindu Marriage Act and the Family Courts Act aim to uphold the institution of marriage and promote familial stability, their implementation reveals a fundamental tension between preserving societal norms and upholding the principles of gender equality and individual autonomy of women. Reconciling this inherent conflict necessitates a critical re-evaluation of the underlying assumptions and biases that shape the implementation of these legal frameworks, with a renewed commitment to ensuring that the interests, needs, and priorities of women are not compromised in the pursuit of marital stability.